At WCS we have great students with great hearts who are well-behaved and polite and bring joy to their teachers. They are, however, human, and consequently they are not perfect and they do make mistakes. Addressing those mistakes from a Christian perspective for the purposes of teaching and training is a big part of why we’re here.
Even though we are a Christian school, we are not immune from some of the issues and challenges that face schools, public and private, across the country. One of those issues is bullying. It is important to us that we do not allow any of our students to bully other students. If we just tell them not to bully, but don’t help them to fully understand what bullying behavior is, we have not clearly communicated our expectation, and cannot fairly address situations that arise. One tool that we have found helpful in addressing this issue is a “Bully Test” that we share with our students in chapel and talk about in the classrooms. I want to share it with you because it is constructive in helping our children recognize some behaviors in themselves, and then working with them to avoid those behaviors as they work to be more Christ-like in everything they do.
- Do you pick on people who are smaller than you, or on animals?
- Do you like to tease and taunt other people?
- If you tease people, do you like to see them get upset?
- Do you think it’s funny when other people make mistakes?
- Do you like to take or destroy other people’s belongings?
- Do you want other students to think you’re the toughest kid in school?
- Do you get angry a lot and stay angry for a long time?
- Do you blame other people for things that go wrong in your life?
- Do you like to get revenge on people who hurt you?
- When you play a game or sport, do you always have to be the winner?
- If you lose at something, do you worry about what other people will think of you?
- Do you get angry or jealous when someone else succeeds?
If you answer “yes” to three or more of the questions, you probably are a bully and you need to find ways to change your behavior.
These are great questions to go through with your children. Their answers can be enlightening, and provide a wonderful opportunity for teaching and training. It’s also not a bad idea for us as adults to take the test to see if there are some areas we need to work on ourselves!